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Please read our rules page for more information on safety tips and a general user guide as to how to use this website. All other questions can be answered in the lesbian chat room. If America truly cares about lesbian sex (which it definitely does, as most porn sites, queer women, and even straight women will tell you) it should do a better job of representing it on screen. The “dutch tulip,” for example, encourages the women go down on each other while lounging on their sides, using their extended lower legs as headrests. Tiffany prefers “tribbing,” which is when two women rub their vaginas against each other, stimulating the nerves in the clitoris and labia.

• And it leads on to an invitation for a meal at her boss’ home.
• That means not only engaging with the more structured narratives of written, visual, or audio erotica, but also borrowing ideas and language from the more improvised erotic narratives of roleplaying from the kink community.
• Your sexual persona might not be a version of yourself you’ve ever tapped into before and can change depending on your partner, situation, or mood.

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• Though, of course, always be conscientious about establishing enthusiastic consent and doing boundary check-ins throughout any roleplaying dirty talk.
• Of course, you don’t have to be a lesbian to have “lesbian sex.” You just need two women.
• The important thing is to not judge or shame yourself or your partner for whatever that sexy persona or fantasy looks like, whether it’s being dressed in Princess Leia’s gold bikini, a tuxedo, nothing but stilettos, or a dog collar.
• So think about what words make you feel great about your sexuality.
• Marin suggests trying to read either already written erotica or what you wrote down out loud to yourself in the mirror.

In my own experiences, I’ve focused a lot on bringing women to orgasm. I wouldn’t stop what I was doing until she at least appeared to be satiated, orgasm or not. I realize now that I often rely on maneuvers that men have used with me, and the women seem to enjoy them. “[Sex between women] tends to be more about exploration of bodies,” Aryka concludes. Clean your sex toys after every time you have sex. Realize that lesbian bodies come in many forms (including pre-surgery trans women.) Ask your partner how their genitals like to be touched and how you can validate their gender identity in the bedroom.

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Also, Horn says, “Don’t be afraid to be super literal in your dirty talk, especially when you’re getting over the initial hump (so to speak) of the social anxiety, figuring each other out, freezing up.” Again, taking note of what’s off-limits is as important as writing down what you like. “Certain words can feel degrading or not gender-affirming, or just make your skin crawl for whatever reason,” says Horn.

When it comes to sexual fantasies or igniting intimacy throughout the week, Eros knows a thing or two about how to bring it to life, even through texting your partner. The “strap-on” is a sex toy that connects a dildo (penis replica) to a harness worn by one woman and used to penetrate the other woman. It’s a popular toy in adult videos, but is it necessary during sex?

Lesbian porn is generally one of the most popular porn categories on the web, but other sexy sites—like those dedicated to erotica—are also having a major moment right now. I mean, we are spending a lot more time home alone these days, so it makes sense that people want to feel aroused! While many either listen to or watch porn on their laptops and phones, written porn (aka erotica) is great for anyone who likes something a little less graphic (but just as hot!). With that, allow me to highlight a few great lesbian erotica options to fill your time.

“At first for most people who talk dirty, it ends up being very basic stuff like you know, ‘That feels good, keep going, don’t stop,'” says Marin. Even the basics are more than enough to get you and your partner revved up. Don’t be afraid to take it slow when it comes to dirty talk that’s in real-time. There’s a variety of transitions into it that help ease you both in. But once you’ve done some of the above exercises on your own, it’s time to do it with a partner. Keep in mind, though, that your partner may very well want to do that solo work and develop their own word bank.

Join us in honoring the legacy and embracing the pulse of Black life. Feminista Jones is a sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger from New York City. She writes about gender, race, politics, mental health and sexuality at FeministaJones.com. Some ladies like it, but it’s more fun to run your pussy over each other during foreplay rather than play sexual twister.

Courtney advises that women not limit themselves in the bed, thinking they can’t do something because there are two women involved. “I find that some lesbians who identify very strongly with labels—butch, femme, stud, dom, etc.—do tend to have sex that mimics heterosexual sex,” says Aryka, a self-identified lesbian who’s had sex with men in the past. She points out that there isn’t the same sense of a beginning and an “end” when women have sex with each other, at least not how we think about sex between a man and woman. When it comes to porn, “lesbian sex” is everywhere, but it’s never actually for lesbians. For some reason, it’s nearly impossible to find “content” where women are having sex with women only for women.